As the holidays approach, starting with Thanksgiving, the more likely it is for individuals to come down with what’s called the holiday blues.
All the socializing, shopping, and holiday activities can bring joy, but can also conjure up unrealistic expectations and extra stress if individuals try to make every aspect of the season picture-perfect and live up to the images of perfect relationships and lives too often represented in the media.
There are many different signs that someone is struggling with holiday blues, from changes in appetite, weight, mood and sleep patterns, to difficulty concentrating and feelings of worthlessness, guilt and anxiety. Recognizing these signs early can help stave off depression and help individuals enjoy the holidays.
“Loss of loved ones, family conflicts and pressure to attend an endless number of events can bring added stress and prevent individuals from enjoying the holidays,” said Debra L. Wentz, PhD, President and CEO, New Jersey Association of Mental Health and Addiction Agencies. She added, “If uncharacteristic feelings become persistent, I would advise people to take them seriously.”
While the holidays are an important time to focus on others, especially those who are less fortunate, self-care is just as important.
“Self-care is always critical, especially during the hectic holiday season. To lessen the pressure felt by many during this time of year, it is good practice to set realistic expectations and goals for the holidays and try to stick to as much of a normal routine as possible,” Dr. Wentz advised. “Try to not fall victim to holiday fear of missing out by taking part in too many social gatherings, in particular those with people and in settings that might trigger depression, anxiety or other negative emotions.”
If any of these symptoms or others (such as inability to sleep or sleeping excessively; fatigue; anger; irritability; difficulty concentrating; and lack of interest in being with friends and family members) last for two weeks or longer, and especially if thoughts of death or suicide occur, professional counseling should be sought. Providers of mental health care and substance use treatment throughout New Jersey can be found on NJAMHAA’s website, www.njamhaa.org.
